What is love?
What does it look like? Smell like? Taste like? Sound like? Feel like? Is it everlasting or time sensitive? Is it simple or complicated? Is it a thing you do or a thing you find?
learned rediscovered reinforced anything this semester, is that there are an infinite amount of answers.
- For Movement class, I read “Celine Dion’s Let’s Talk About Love: A Journey to the End of Taste” by Carl Wilson, which takes apart what people love and appreciate in Celine Dion and her music.
- In Dramaturgy class, fellow dramaturgs and I engaged with different adaptations of Medea and found key differences in Medea and Jason’s relationship – what their love looks like, if their love matters in the end, if love is lost. Because of the different cultures in our plays, The Hungry Woman by Cherrie Moraga, Medea Queen of Colchester by Marianne McDonald, and wAve by Sung Rno, communication and meaning of love was different between all of them. And we thought about different relationships a dramaturg may hold and nurture in the theatre in general.
- In Rehearsal and Production, I reminded myself to take moments to enjoy what I am doing, to have fun and be good to others while I might be deeply stressing out or resisting my own generosity.
- And in general, in this semester before I go abroad, I spend moments and say goodbyes to people I won’t see for a while…some I don’t know if I’ll ever see them again.
A few days ago, a close friend of mine introduced me to the concept of Love Languages, which comes from Gary Chapman’s book “The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts.” Each person expresses, communicates, and receives love in different ways – the five categories include Gift Giving, Word Affirmation, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, and Quality Time – and being aware of our own primary language can help us build better relationships.
Of course, I took the personality quiz as soon as I could (You take it too!) and thought of how this affected me personally… but it got me thinking about how this could help creative collaborations as well – which are still personal relationships right?
It goes back to developing a common vocabulary and creating a foundation where everyone is on the same page, active listening, and being a good ensemble member when creating a safe space – we don’t necessarily need everyone to take a Love Language or Myers-Briggs test, or read everyone’s Astrology birth charts or believe in any of those things, but the structure behind these concepts are helpful and lead to clearer communication.
(Another lesson I remembered: I like structure. It’s not limiting or a trap, more like it creates boundaries to push against)
It also goes back to entry points, what we bring to the work, and why we do the work. It should all be with love. This is no way an original thought, but the romanticized narratives of a tortured artist, suffering for their art – gotta go. If what I am working on does not make me happy or is not fulfilling, why am I wasting my time? (I feel like I am becoming a hedonist) But soon (or maybe already) getting graded won’t motivate me to get work done or at the quality I want; so what else would motivate me to keep creating and also stay healthy? Yes, money. But also love – self-love, love for the craft, love for the process, love for who or what we might be helping…of course none of that is easy because of life’s many distractions, but perhaps this is another mantra to reinforce so that the idea brings more ease.