A few weeks ago Last Call Theatre Company came to our contemporary drama class and showed us the work that they do. One piece of the exercise they worked with us on involved us thinking about the communities we belong to and why. This got me thinking about my own friends and family and whether or not I had a community of people I felt I could really trust. I realized that there are very few people in my life that I feel I can rely on no matter what the circumstance is. Being a queer person of color I have come to realize that the spaces I have existed in most of my life do not have a lot of people like me. I don’t even have a lot of queer friends. Growing up I went to a predominantly white school. I stuck to a very small group of freinds, all of whom I saw as different from me in terms of race, class, and life experience. Now that i’m in college I have been lucky enough to be immersed in a community full of artist who think similarly to me. However, I have found that a lot of the people I spend time with on a daily basis are Cis and predominantly white. I’ve never thought much about this fact, or at least I didn’t until now. After
After a performance of Wig Out!, which a production I am a part of, there was a post show discussion about chosen family. The conversation focused primarly on ball culture and families/houses of queer people of color. People often choose to find family outside of their blood relatives because they are not supported by their own family or need some extra support. I have been fortunate to have a family that loves and supportes everything I am and everything that I do. However, now that i am about to graduate college and start living my life I can’t help but think what it would be like to be a part of a community of people that I could truly relate to, fully. As I go out into the world i think it is important that I go out and seek friends that are queer and of color. There is something missing in my life; a true sense of community and chosen family.